Monday, April 25, 2011

The Purpose of this Blog

This blog was originally created for my Women's Studies class. It is a compilation of both original work and those I am displaying of others. I have incorporated pictures and videos as well as articles and information about certain feminist organizations.

I think the most powerful medium for information today is the Internet. It's difficult to not be able to find something or someone on it. I chose to create a blog because I believe this project can turn into something real world even after the class is over. I can continue to showcase my own opinions as well as others' in order to better educate the world about what feminism truly is. It is not about hating or dominating men. It is merely a philosophy that states women and men should be treated equally. Unfortunately, because it is the radicals who show up most often in the mass media (everyone loves to hear about a controversy), many have gotten the wrong impression.

By creating blogs like this one (and with effective advertising) I hope to change the minds of curious readers on the Internet who think feminism is just a silly hoax about a bunch of women who like to complain about their problems. It's a support system for all minorities who are treated unequally with a special lens to focus on women. Men should not feel intimidated or repulsed by someone who considers herself a "feminist." I consider myself to be one, though I'm far from what you might stereotypically conjure in your mind at the mention of that word.

Yes, I feel women should be independent of men. Sure, I'm Pro-Choice, Pro-Gay Marriage, Pro Equality for all. I don't sit in the passenger seat of my car simply because my boyfriend is with me. I plan on getting a graduate and perhaps even a doctorate degree and focusing heavily on my career. I enjoy a good pro-woman rally. I thoroughly enjoy having a lazy day and not putting on makeup and fixing my hair.

However, I also feel that women should be at a man's level, not above. I'm not a lesbian. I enjoy doing girly things. I like getting dressed up and wearing heels and makeup. I genuinely enjoy doing things for my boyfriend simply because it makes him happy (I think all relationships should have this dynamic for both partners). I want to get married and one day have my own family.

I am a realistic feminist.

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Feminist Quotes

Because I am a woman, I must make unusual efforts to succeed.  If I fail, no one will say, "She doesn't have what it takes."  They will say, "Women don't have what it takes."  ~Clare Boothe Luce

The emotional, sexual, and psychological stereotyping of females begins when the doctor says, "It's a girl."  ~Shirley Chisholm

Women belong in the house... and the Senate.  ~Author Unknown

I wish someone would have told me that, just because I'm a girl, I don't have to get married.  ~Marlo Thomas

Feminism is the radical notion that women are people.  ~Cheris Kramarae and Paula Treichler

I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naïve or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.  ~Anaïs Nin

I see my body as an instrument, rather than an ornament.  ~Alanis Morissette, quoted in Reader's Digest, March 2000

I'm tough, I'm ambitious, and I know exactly what I want.  If that makes me a bitch, okay.  ~Madonna Ciccone

I was told that whistling wasn't ladylike, but I knew even then that women were simply not supposed to be that happy.  ~Anonymous, quoted in Kindling the Spirit by Lois P. Frankel

You don't have to be anti-man to be pro-woman.  ~Jane Galvin Lewis

History is herstory too.  ~Author Unknown

Men are taught to apologize for their weaknesses, women for their strengths.  ~Lois Wyse

No woman is required to build the world by destroying herself.  ~Rabbi Sofer

It was we, the people; not we, the white male citizens; nor yet we, the male citizens; but we, the whole people, who formed the Union.... Men, their rights and nothing more; women, their rights and nothing less.  ~Susan B. Anthony

One of the things about equality is not just that you be treated equally to a man, but that you treat yourself equally to the way you treat a man.  ~Marlo Thomas

I am working for the time when unqualified blacks, browns, and women join the unqualified men in running our government.  ~Cissy Farenthold

I do not wish them to have power over men, but over themselves.  ~Mary Wollstonecraft

There are very few jobs that actually require a penis or vagina.  All other jobs should be open to everybody.  ~Florynce Kennedy

The test for whether or not you can hold a job should not be the arrangement of your chromosomes.  ~Bella Abzug

I've yet to be on a campus where most women weren't worrying about some aspect of combining marriage, children, and a career.  I've yet to find one where many men were worrying about the same thing.  ~Gloria Steinem

Feminism directly confronts the idea that one person or set of people [has] the right to impose definitions of reality on others.  ~Liz Stanley and Sue Wise

I asked a Burmese why women, after centuries of following their men, now walk ahead.  He said there were many unexploded land mines since the war.  ~Robert Mueller

Resolved, that the women of this nation in 1876, have greater cause for discontent, rebellion and revolution than the men of 1776.  ~Susan B. Anthony

A woman reading Playboy feels a little like a Jew reading a Nazi manual.  ~Gloria Steinem

How good does a female athlete have to be before we just call her an athlete?  ~Author Unknown

The world has never yet seen a truly great and virtuous nation because in the degradation of woman the very fountains of life are poisoned at their source.  ~Lucretia Mott

It matters more what's in a woman's face than what's on it.  ~Claudette Colbert, quoted in Kindling the Spirit by Lois P. Frankel

To tell a woman everything she may not do is to tell her what she can do.  ~Spanish Proverb

Women are not inherently passive or peaceful.  We're not inherently anything but human.  ~Robin Morgan

Men will often admit other women are oppressed but not you.  ~Sheila Rowbotham

Be plain in dress, and sober in your diet;
In short, my deary, kiss me, and be quiet.
~Mary Wortley Montagu, A Summary of Lord Lyttelton's Advice

Being a lady is an attitude.  ~Chuck Woolery, Love Connection

Every time we liberate a woman, we liberate a man.  ~Margaret Mead

Women's chains have been forged by men, not by anatomy.  ~Estelle R. Ramey

I would have girls regard themselves not as adjectives but as nouns.  ~Elizabeth Cady Stanton, "Our Girls"

I am beautiful as I am.  I am the shape that was gifted.  My breasts are no longer perky and upright like when I was a teenager.  My hips are wider than that of a fashion model's.  For this I am glad, for these are the signs of a life lived.  ~Cindy Olsen, co-owner of The Body Objective

Some of us are becoming the men we wanted to marry.  ~Gloria Steinem

Sensible and responsible women do not want to vote.  The relative positions to be assumed by man and woman in the working out of our civilization were assigned long ago by a higher intelligence than ours.  ~Grover Cleveland, 1905

If all men are born free, how is it that all women are born slaves?  ~Mary Astell

I listen to feminists and all these radical gals - most of them are failures.  They've blown it.  Some of them have been married, but they married some Casper Milquetoast who asked permission to go to the bathroom.  These women just need a man in the house.  That's all they need.  Most of the feminists need a man to tell them what time of day it is and to lead them home.  And they blew it and they're mad at all men.  Feminists hate men.  They're sexist.  They hate men - that's their problem.  ~Jerry Falwell

[Feminism is] a socialist, anti-family, political movement that encourages women to leave their husbands, kill their children, practice witchcraft, destroy capitalism and become lesbians.  ~Pat Robertson

I think, therefore I'm single.  ~Lizz Winstead

I can't be a rose in any man's lapel.  ~Margaret Trudeau

Taught from infancy that beauty is woman's sceptre, the mind shapes itself to the body, and roaming round its gilt cage, only seeks to adorn its prison.  ~Mary Wollstonecraft

The only jobs for which no man is qualified are human incubators and wet nurse.  Likewise, the only job for which no woman is or can be qualified is sperm donor.  ~Wilma Scott Heide

Whether women are better than men I cannot say - but I can say they are certainly no worse.  ~Golda Meir

Give a woman a job and she grows balls.  ~Jack Gelber

The feminine mystique has succeeded in burying millions of American women alive.  ~Betty Friedan

It's wonderful to watch a pretty woman with character grow beautiful.  ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966

How important it is for us to recognize and celebrate our heroes and she-roes!  ~Maya Angelou, in Chris Orr, "Moms and Whoopi: Pioneers of Black Theater," Plexus, November 1983

American women are fools because they try to be everything to everybody.  ~Viva

Several men I can think of are as capable, as smart, as funny, as compassionate, and as confused - as remarkable you might say - as most women.  ~Jane Howard

Not only is women's work never done, the definition keeps changing.  ~Bill Copeland

No man is as anti-feminist as a really feminine woman.  ~Frank O'Connor

Men weren't really the enemy - they were fellow victims suffering from an outmoded masculine mystique that made them feel unnecessarily inadequate when there were no bears to kill.  ~Betty Friedan

Sometimes the best man for the job isn't.  ~Author Unknown

Scratch most feminists and underneath there is a woman who longs to be a sex object.  The difference is that is not all she wants to be.  ~Betty Rollin

When two people marry they become in the eyes of the law one person, and that one person is the husband.  ~Shana Alexander, State-by-State Guide to Women's Legal Rights, 1975

Why is it that men can be bastards and women must wear pearls and smile?  ~Lynn Hecht Schafren

You know, when I first went into the movies Lionel Barrymore played my grandfather.  Later he played my father and finally he played my husband.  If he had lived I'm sure I would have played his mother.  That's the way it is in Hollywood.  The men get younger and the women get older.  ~Lillian Gish

Easy is an adjective used to describe a woman who has the sexual morals of a man.  ~Nancy Linn-Desmond

Isn't that the problem?  That women have been swindled for centuries into substituting adornment for love, fashion (as it were) for passion?  ~Erica Jong

Young wives are the leading asset of corporate power.  They want the suburbs, a house, a settled life, and respectability.  They want society to see that they have exchanged themselves for something of value.  ~Ralph Nader

Nobody objects to a woman being a good writer or sculptor or geneticist if at the same time she manages to be a good wife, a good mother, good-looking, good-tempered, well-dressed, well-groomed, and unaggressive.  ~Marya Mannes

Women are the only exploited group in history to have been idealized into powerlessness.  ~Erica Jong

It starts when you sink in his arms and ends with your arms in his sink.  ~Author Unknown

To me, "sexual freedom" means freedom from having to have sex.  ~Lily Tomlin

And the crazy part of it was even if you were clever, even if you spent your adolescence reading John Donne and Shaw, even if you studied history or zoology or physics and hoped to spend your life pursuing some difficult and challenging career, you still had a mind full of all the soupy longings that every high-school girl was awash in... underneath it, all you longed to be was annihilated by love, to be swept off your feet, to be filled up by a giant prick spouting sperm, soapsuds, silk and satins and, of course, money.  ~Erica Jong

No one should have to dance backward all of their lives.  ~Jill Ruckelshaus

When a woman behaves like a man, why doesn't she behave like a nice man?  ~Edith Evans

We have to have faith in ourselves.  I have never met a woman who, deep down in her core, really believes she has great legs.  And if she suspects that she might have great legs, then she's convinced that she has a shrill voice and no neck.  ~Cynthia Heimel

The reason there are so few female politicians is that it is too much trouble to put makeup on two faces.  ~Maureen Murphy

Any intelligent woman who reads the marriage contract, and then goes into it, deserves all the consequences.  ~Isadora Duncan

It's hard to fight an enemy who has outposts in your head.  ~Sally Kempton, Esquire, 1970

I'm just a person trapped inside a woman's body.  ~Elaine Boosler

Marriage is for women the commonest mode of livelihood, and the total amount of undesired sex endured by women is probably greater in marriage than in prostitution.  ~Bertrand Russell, Marriage and Morals

Women are not the weak, frail little flowers that they are advertised.  There has never been anything invented yet, including war, that a man would enter into, that a woman wouldn't, too.  ~Will Rogers

Tomboys are an assertion of reality, of practicality.  Forced femininity is a waste of energy and resources, and therefore of oneself.  Live to live.  ~Morgan Torva

We've begun to raise daughters more like sons... but few have the courage to raise our sons more like our daughters.  ~Gloria Steinem

Our only hope for the redemption of woman from the thralldom of dress lies in the belief that her hitherto limited sphere of activities has been so insufficient for her intellectual occupations that she has been forced to expend her thoughts in decorating her person, instead of enlarging her mind.  ~Mercy B. Jackson

There is more difference within the sexes than between them.  ~Ivy Compton-Burnett, Mother and Son

Because women's work is never done and is underpaid or unpaid or boring or repetitious and we're the first to get fired and what we look like is more important than what we do and if we get raped it's our fault and if we get beaten we must have provoked it and if we raise our voices we're nagging bitches and if we enjoy sex we're nymphos and if we don't we're frigid and if we love women it's because we can't get a "real" man and if we ask our doctor too many questions we're neurotic and/or pushy and if we expect childcare we're selfish and if we stand up for our rights we're aggressive and "unfeminine" and if we don't we're typical weak females and if we want to get married we're out to trap a man and if we don't we're unnatural and because we still can't get an adequate safe contraceptive but men can walk on the moon and if we can't cope or don't want a pregnancy we're made to feel guilty about abortion and...for lots of other reasons we are part of the women's liberation movement.  ~Author unknown, quoted in The Torch, 14 September 1987

Why is it that only girls stand on the sides of their feet?  As if they're afraid to plant themselves?  ~Barbara Kingsolver, Animal Dreams, 1990

Many beautiful women have been made happy by their own beauty, but no intelligent woman has ever been made happy by her own intelligence.  ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966

During the feminist revolution, the battle lines were again simple.  It was easy to tell the enemy, he was the one with the penis.  This is no longer strictly true.  Some men are okay now.  We're allowed to like them again.  We still have to keep them in line, of course, but we no longer have to shoot them on sight.  ~Cynthia Heimel, Sex Tips for Girls, 1983

I didn't want to be a boy, ever, but I was outraged that his height and intelligence were graces for him and gaucheries for me.  ~Jane Rule

We haven't come a long way, we've come a short way.  If we hadn't come a short way, no one would be calling us baby.  ~Elizabeth Janeway

A woman is like a tea bag.  It's only when she's in hot water that you realize how strong she is.  ~Attributed to both Eleanor Roosevelt and Carl Sandburg

The little rift between the sexes is astonishingly widened by simply teaching one set of catchwords to the girls and another to the boys.  ~Robert Louis Stevenson

Men define intelligence, men define usefulness, men tell us what is beautiful, men even tell us what is womanly.  ~Sally Kempton

Sexism is a social disease.  ~Author Unknown

Men are irrelevant.  Women are happy or unhappy, fulfilled or unfulfilled, and it has nothing to do with men.  ~Fay Weldon

One does not have to sleep with, or even touch, someone who has paid for your meal.  All those obligations are hereby rendered null and void, and any man who doesn't think so needs a quick jab in the kidney.  ~Cynthia Heimel, Sex Tips for Girls, 1983

Women are all female impersonators to some degree.  ~Susan Brownmiller

All this pitting of sex against sex, of quality against quality; all this claiming of superiority and imputing of inferiority belong to the private-school stage of human existence where there are sides, and it is necessary for one side to beat another side.  ~Virginia Woolf, A Room of One's Own, 1929

You don't have to signal a social conscience by looking like a frump.  Lace knickers won't hasten the holocaust, you can ban the bomb in a feather boa just as well as without, and a mild interest in the length of hemlines doesn't necessarily disqualify you from reading Das Kapital and agreeing with every word.  ~Elizabeth Bibesco

My advice to the women's clubs of America is to raise more hell and fewer dahlias.  ~James McNeill Whistler

All MEN are Created Equal

The following list was comprised by tekanji.

Clicking on the name will take you to her blog. The url to the full article from which this excerpt was taken can be found here. 

I have bolded and underlined the items in the list which I think are extremely important.

We Can’t Be Equal While:
Gender Roles
  1. Men are the default and women are the Other (and therefore lesser).
  2. Being called “girly” or a “sissy” or “pussy” are some of the worst insults you can give a man.
  3. When a woman shows confidence in herself, she is said to “have balls”, or conversely she is a “man-eater”, “ball-buster”, or a “bitch” because she was “too” assertive.
  4. Men are beat up, ridiculed, or made fun of for being “effeminate” and women are beat up, ridiculed, or made fun of for being “masculine”.
  5. Many people get angry when a woman questions the intentions behind a “chivalrous” act from a man.
  6. There are men who refuse “chivalrous” acts from a woman, such as refusing to walk through a door that a woman holds open for them, while believing that it is rude for a woman to exercise the same right to refuse.
  7. Women can’t express anger without the very real fear of being accused of “hysterics” or being “shrill”.
  8. Women get scolded for “un-ladylike” behaviour: using coarse language, talking frankly about sex or other “impolite” topics, confidently voicing one’s dissenting opinion, etc.
  9. People continue to believe and perpetuate gender essentialism based on bad science or using actual studies to “prove” the innateness of gender roles when the study itself supports no such thing.
Relationships, Sex, and Sexuality
  1. For different-sex couples, women are expected to take their husband’s name, or at the very least hyphenate, but many men still balk at the idea of even considering adopting their wife’s name. If a woman decides to keep her name, both partners are interrogated and shamed by friends and family.
  2. For same-sex couples, people think it is okay to ask “who’s the woman/man of the couple?”
  3. Women are seen as the “gatekeepers” to morality/sexuality, charged with the duty of fending off the advances of men. If they fail then they were “asking for” it and/or are “damaged goods”. Their clothing/actions will always be questioned to see if they were “leading on” the man at all.
  4. Men are seen as “beasts” who are unable to control their “raging hormones” – which absolves them of guilt for “improper” sex (anything from date rape to sex outside of marriage) but also paints them as uncivilized brutes.
  5. Women are “sluts”, men are “players”.
  6. Women’s worth goes down according to how many sexual partners people think she has had.
  7. Men’s worth goes up according to how many sexual partners people think he has had.
  8. We live in a rape culture where many people continue to blame the victims of rape and domestic violence.
  9. We buy into the myth that all men (even minors) are, at all times, willing to fuck a “gorgeous” woman and any man who would pass up sex with a remotely attractive woman is deserving of ridicule.
  10. Wives/mothers are still expected to do most of the home/childcare, even if they have a job outside the home.
  11. Fathers/husbands are seen as bumbling dolts who are mentally incapable of cooking, cleaning, taking care of the children, or any other traditionally feminine task.
  12. There are significantly more stay-at-home moms than there are dads.
  13. Men are expected to pay on a date, and some men expect women to put out for this “service”.
The Public Sphere
  1. Men continue to be a clear majority in the government, prominent positions in businesses, and other public places of power.
  2. There have been so few female leaders in most countries. For instance, in the Group of Eight:
    • America has never had a female president.
    • Canada’s first, and only, female prime minister was Kim Campell [1993].
    • Britain’s first, and only, female prime minister was Margaret Thatcher [1979-1990].
    • France’s first, and only, female prime minister was Edith Cresson [1991-1992].
    • Italy has never had a female prime minister.
    • Japan has never had a female prime minister.
    • Russia has never had a female president.
    • Germany’s first, and only, female Chancellor is Angela Merkel [2005].
  3. Pakistan, which is held up by many Americans as a “backward” country regarding women’s rights, elected a female prime minister, Benazir Bhutto, twice while Americans were still debating whether or not America was “ready” for a female president (here are some other female leaders who have been elected while America has been dragging its feet).
  4. There are still areas in our so-called “equal” societies where sex discrimination, sexual harassment and the glass ceiling are alive and kicking.
  5. It’s considered “big news” when articles tell mothers who work outside the home that they “can’t have it all”, but not so much when articles call for work reforms and male responsibility.
  6. Women in the sex trade, even those who have chosen the life, are treated as sub-human on a regular basis.
  7. It is not seen as sex discrimination to include harmful (and expensive!) items such as makeup and high heels in the requirements for a woman’s dress code while having no such constraints on the men’s dress code.
  8. Women are still discouraged from entering the sciences by social stereotypes, lack of job availability, and the continuing belief that women just aren’t smart enough.
  9. It is considered appropriate to attack a female public figure because of her appearance and fashion sense.
  10. One of the first ways to discredit women who speak up in public forums is to threaten sexual violence.
  11. Women are disproportionately affected by fat discrimination in the workforce and other places.

Pro-Choice Propaganda

There will always be those who are and are not in favor of Pro-Choice. It should be made clear that Pro-Choice is NOT the same thing as Pro-Abortion, despite popular belief. Simply because one believes the government does not have the right or the authority to tell a woman what she can and cannot legally do in regards to her own body and her own family. The government was established to protect basic, inherent rights, was it not? Why is this any different? True feminism is all about choice. A woman should be able to choose to have an abortion, just like she should be able to choose to marry and keep the baby. It's a two-way street.

Below is a compilation of protest signs for a Pro-Choice rally. My favorite is the one that relates abortion to if men could hypothetically get pregnant.

(The above is my favorite!!)

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Flying: Confessions of a Free Woman

Here is a trailer to what looks like a very interesting documentary: "Flying: Confessions of a Free Woman"

The movie in full is available on Netflix for DVD delivery.

Love is Love is Love

Love: noun
1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.
3. sexual passion or desire.
4. a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart.
5. (used in direct address as a term of endearment, affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love?
6. a love affair;  an intensely amorous incident; amour.
7. sexual intercourse; copulation.
8. ( initial capital letter ) a personification of sexual affection, as Eros or Cupid.
9. affectionate concern for the well-being of others: the love of one's neighbor.
10. strong predilection, enthusiasm, or liking for anything: her love of books.
11. the object or thing so liked: The theater was her great love.
12. the benevolent affection of god for His creatures, or the reverent affection due from them to God.
13. Chiefly Tennis . a score of zero; nothing.
14. a word formerly used in communications to represent the letter L.
Nowhere is orientation ever mentioned.